Keeping relationship secret.. Actually hiding it from his/her friends to the point no one knows. -u/Verdigris000

My ex called herself a pathological liar and told me she would never lie to me, and cried to me multiple times over the phone begging me not to leave when I told her to chill out and I’m not going anywhere. -u/KimJongUf

Cutting you off from your friends, and not permitting you to socialize without them. -u/Stormallthetime

Always having strange reasons to not want to see you, "forgetting" your plans, being defensive or bit of a stand-off. -u/Cyanide_Revolver

The jabs they claim are just jokes. -u/FreeMindRestFollows

When everything revolves around what they want to do. Their job, their social life, hobbies, where they want to live, go out to, go on holiday to, until you get to the point where you don't even know what you want to do anymore. -u/MadamTheadoramoon

Immediately pushing boundaries, often means the person has no concept of bodily autonomy. -u/thevioletsea

Dismissing your feelings as trivial. A person who actually cares about you would consider your feelings about things as well, or at least attempt to understand. -u/Affectionate-Feed538

If they keep complaining about multiple exes. In those situations, they are the common factor. -u/TheVantal

Possessiveness tends to manifest itself later on in the relationship. -u/SilasMarner77

I think an under looked one, is constantly needing to do something. It's like you’re more concerned with the experience of a relationship than actually forming a connection. -u/Leanoss

Obsessive loyalty/submissiveness to their parents. It makes them look "family oriented" at first but if their parents say "jump" and their response is always "how high " without ever questioning it; you'll NEVER be a priority to them and will never have the freedom to grow your own relationship with your spouse. -u/thedirtiestofdirties

Ask yourself. ''Am I falling for the same type that I fell for the last time? Remember how that went?'' -u/Puppy-Zwolle

The only thing you have in common is that you like to bang each other. Unless that’s all you want. -u/SherifGames

Someone agreeing with ALL you say when starting to get to know them. -u/xTeylu

They treat you well, shower you with affection but treat others poorly. They're hiding a psycho crazy in their head. -u/Atomic_X-Ray

Extreme clingyness. Seems cute at first, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with valuing time with your partner and spending as much time as possible with them. -u/ajjthecow

The constant need to know what you're doing or where you are. It's ok if it's just something they may ask from time to time for general conversation or to take interest in your life, but it becomes a problem if it's getting to the point where they're asking very frequently to an obsessive degree. To the point where it feels like they're just trying to track where you are at all times and monitor what you're doing.

If they always get upset whenever you don't respond to their call or message as soon as you get it, expecting you to basically have your phone on you at all times. -u/JewelFazbear

Love bombing. No one can fall in love with you in two days, trust me. They can however, be in love with the idea of you liking them more by mirroring your behaviour and showering you with compliments. Take a step back, tell them that "hey, that's cool and all but you do not and cannot possibly love me. You don't even know me" -u/Sawathingonce

One party paying everything all the time without the other party ever even faking to want to pay. -u/pk1950

Treating you like you are a cheat when you are not. -u/RevFernie

Being overly forthcoming emotionally. Makes you bond fast but then they become codependent and expect you to be the keeps of them on every level. If you don't they go all out claiming they will die/kill themselves without you. -u/gregorianballsacks

If your interests are exactly the same and you feel like "wow I finally found someone who likes the same things, we have so much in common, I can't believe it, Bla bla" Then they're 100% faking their personality. Many toxic people are good at reading others and will come to you and tell you they love the things they think you love, tell you they have the same hobbies as you, even fake interest in your beliefs, etc. It almost feels too good to be true. Because it is. -u/Psychonaut6584

When someone expects you to be psychic instead of just communicating what they want from you. -u/Boneapplepie